The reason why even a small choice makes you think long
Sep 15, 2025
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Even though it's a small decision, it's not easy to come up with an answer, and you often find yourself held there for a long time. If you look closely at such a moment, you can see little by little the anxiety and expectations that lie deep in your heart, not just indecision. The reason for hesitating to make a choice may be a more delicate and a good sign of our inner self.
1. a small fear of failure
It's not a big deal, but what if it goes wrong?The idea that ' comes to mind first. If you make a small choice wrong, you will hesitate because you will regret it. The mind that accepts even a small failure sensitively is in contact with the tendency to pursue perfection. In the end, even decisions that have a small burden of doing well become heavy, making me a wall that keeps me from moving.
2. a self-distrust that raises its head at every moment
Whenever I'm uncertain about what's right for me or what I want, can I trust my choice?' I have a doubt that. If you lack self-confidence, even a small decision feels like a big test. In this case, rather than being afraid of failure, it is necessary to slowly look at what I really want.
3. a mind swayed by comparison and gaze
'What would anyone else do?' As soon as the thought permeates, my choice becomes increasingly distant. From the moment I try to meet other people's standards, what I want becomes blurred and tied to what I want to look like. In the end, my choices are increasingly distorted by the eyes of others, and the time to think is long.
4. When you give too much meaning to a small decision
In fact, even though it's a minor choice, the thought of 'This might be a turning point in my life' makes me choke myself. If the worry about the outcome is ahead, the burden of imagination is greater than the current choice itself. Eventually, you can't make a choice and only anxiety builds up.
5. a habit of taking care of others first
Even if it's my choice, wouldn't it be inconvenient for someone?' I am often ahead of myself in doing. If you consider other people's feelings before your feelings, your choice will be delayed and you will flow toward meeting other people's expectations. As a result, only compromise remains instead of the path you really want.
6. When there's so much information
If you face too many options, you may not be able to make a decision. The more information there is, the greater the pressure to make a better choice, and it is sometimes difficult to determine which one is the better choice. For example, when choosing a menu, I waste my time comparing reviews and options endlessly. In this case, it is helpful to simply set the selection criteria and boldly exclude unnecessary information. Simplification is the key to reducing hesitation.
7. When you're afraid of the responsibility after making a choice
Choices soon lead to responsibility, so you stop because you fear their weight. The pressure of "'I chose this, so I shouldn't regret it' is tying itself up. But rather than being afraid of responsibility, you can only move forward with a light heart when you acknowledge the process of learning through choice.
When hesitation drags on in the face of small choices, it may not be just laziness but a cautious sign from my mind. Today, let's listen to my voice rather than other people's standards, and take a step toward what my heart wants. That one minor choice can eventually be a valuable experience for me
This article was translated by Naver AI translator.
