My second mom and dad, who are lonely because of my autistic brother, are having a hard time, so I'm going to put up with it (like gold)
Mar 21, 2025
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On Channel A 'Nowadays Parenting - My Little Child Like Gold', which aired on the 21st, the second story of an actor Lee Sang-in and a mother standing on the brink of raising three brothers was revealed.
Lee Sang-in and his wife, who accepted their first child's autism spectrum last week, said they plan to end their six-year weekend life as advised by Oh Eun-young. Lee Sang-in "It's the most important time for the first time, so I have to make a big decision. I'm thinking of moving to Seoul where I can get medical treatment and get a program."
However, Lee Sang-in and his wife confessed that they had concerns about parenting that they could not talk about not only the first but also the second and third. In particular, the video released on the day showed the second child acting aggressively toward the first child, shocking him.
The second, who was riding a bicycle in the yard, rushed to the first, who stopped because the bicycle chain fell out. Even if the first child escaped his seat, he chased him again and attacked him on purpose, and the first child, who was being beaten without knowing, ran away into the house where his mother was.
When the second person persistently follows the first and attacks, the ideal person "The second rarely shows aggression first. That's beyond the attack and it's a level of bullying." Oh Eun-young said that the second's behavior was 'Manual Attack' and "If humans are not learned from a very young age, it is easy to attack the weak." So I think education is important, but I think you're the underdog for the second kid" he analyzed.
The video released afterwards showed the three brothers having a good time playing origami with Lee Sang-in. The third, who was playing alone, suddenly moved in, took away the second and was upset. The second was that he accepted even if his younger brother had a temper tantrum, but Lee Sang-in was focused on the first, so he couldn't look at it properly. Then, when the third raised his voice loudly, he soothed him, saying, "What was wrong with your brother?" and the second, who was frustrated, was crying and punched the third face.
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Lee Sang-in appeared to copy the first behavior. Isosceles triangles are also because the first one is interested in figures, but the second one did not know how to imitate them. He was confused, saying, "I didn't copy my firstborn at home like that, but why would I copy him at kindergarten?"
Oh Eun-young said, `The first is that if there is a natural difficulty in social development, the second is clearly distinguished from the first, but as a result, the second is also difficult in social development.' `Usually, two-year-old brothers imitate their older brothers very much. Autism Spectrum There is a meaningless sound that children make when they are embarrassed and awkward. Second, rather than learning other ways to do it when you are awkward, when you enter the classroom, you hear the sound (like a brother), and it is said to be a kind of 'mirror'." He emphasized that "If you follow the autism spectrum, the child who imitates you will also become autistic, but that is not the case at all."
Oh Eun-young analyzed that "As I devoted my time and energy to the first child with the autism spectrum, the second child was pushed out as a result, and as the three brothers lived a slightly isolated life without a father in a remote village without a peer", he lacked experience in social development. "It hurts my heart that the second child is the only one to follow." We need to provide a lot of good stimuli that are essential for imitation development in the future" he advised.
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Mom persuaded the second child again, but the second child "Do you hate me?"I doubted my mother's love. Afterwards, the mother, who was explaining the situation, found the first child wearing panties upside down and went to the first child with a burst of laughter, and the second child was pushed out of interest. However, the mother, who was laughing until a while ago, became angry and started to cry, and the three brothers approached and hugged her if she was worried about her crying mother. The energy-depleted mother briefly separated from her children and held her breath under the sink to tears.
Oh Eun-young says of the second child "The child is caring and full of emotions. She's soft and nice. But when the second child cries, he doesn't cry because he's sick, but he's mixed with unfair feelings. She's always upset and has a hard time, but she can't finish it. It's already not easy to express your emotions, but it fizzles out because it can't be resolved." In addition, about the mother's behavior "The mother explains the situation when the second child expresses his or her feelings. to express in a theoretical and intellectual way"The second is that I understand my mother's words with my head, but it is not accepted with my heart, and I feel sad and unfair. So in the end, the second is not always able to finish expressing one's mind, he said, advising that healthy emotional education is needed for the second.
When the second child asked about his concerns these days in an interview, "My mom and dad won't play with me. I don't think he's playing with me because he's busy taking care of me"He confessed. When asked how it was to play with his brother, "I want to communicate with my brother, but I can't. That's why I'm lonely" and "I'm going to put up with it because I'm lonely, but Mom and Dad are having a hard time, so I'm going to put up with it." He made Mom and Dad sob.
In addition, the second child, who usually likes trains, said about the reason "Dad always goes to Seoul and sleeps four nights. Dad comes by train, but it's nice to come by train. That's why I like trains." Then "Mom looks tired when she sighs. I think it's so pitiful. I wish I had my dad every day" reported the wind.
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