the secret of a human relationship that changes with the way one speaks
Sep 23, 2025
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Every word you say casually can make the other person uncomfortable or distant. Bad words, such as complaining, nagging, and sarcastic speech, wear out the other person and undermine trust. Let's make the conversation soft and positive with small but minor changes.
repeated complaints and grunts
Constant complaints make the atmosphere of conversation heavy. Grumbling about the weather, work, and people can exhaust the listener and cut off the conversation. For example, instead of "I'm annoyed because it's too hot", let's suggest a positive alternative like "Let's rest in a cool cafe". Reducing complaints and switching to a solution-oriented conversation will make the other person comfortable. Let's practice positive speech by remembering what we are grateful for every day.
nagging and questioning
"Why did you do this?" "Did you do it right?" The same nagging makes the other person defensive and ruins the flow of conversation. Repeated questions also cause fatigue. When you need advice, why don't you do this?Let's offer it as gently as ". Let's understand the other person's position first and make a habit of reducing unnecessary points. The attitude of looking at the feelings of the other person before the conversation is effective in reducing nagging.
an excessive self-centered conversation
The habit of telling one's own story alienates the other. Words like "I used to say"I've tried" disconnect and distract the conversation. Listen to the other person, "What was it like then?Let's ask the question like ". Empathy and listening enrich the conversation and make the other person feel respected. Let's practice listening to the other person first during the conversation.
exaggerated expression and conclusion
Exaggerated expressions undermine the credibility of the conversation. Instead of exaggerating, let's be specific and gentle. Decisive speech creates conflict and misunderstanding. Clear and fact-based expressions can reduce conflict in conversation. Let's make a habit of consciously checking exaggerated words before conversation.
Interruption and Conversation Exclusive
The habit of cutting off the other person's words or monopolizing the conversation makes the other person uncomfortable. Even if you feel the urge to intervene during the conversation, let's wait until the other person finishes talking. You can balance the conversation with simple reactions such as silence, nodding, and "I see". Natural communication is possible by consciously increasing the other person's speaking time in the conversation. Let's practice not interrupting during a conversation once a day.
sarcasm and sarcasm
"What, that's good for you" "Did you know that now?" The same sarcastic words offend the other person and hurt the relationship. A sarcastic tone, even if it's a joke, undermines trust. Let's express sincere praise or curiosity. Keeping the tone of the conversation warm makes the atmosphere smoother. Let's make a habit of checking ourselves every time we say something sarcastic and turning it into something positive.
Talking habits have a profound effect on relationships unconsciously. Fixed speech habits are difficult to change, but they can be improved by conscious inspection and practice. If you develop a conversational habit of respecting and empathizing with the other person, your relationship will be smoother. Starting today, let's start with a small change in speech and create positive interpersonal relationships. It is also a good way to take time to reflect on my way of speaking after talking once every day.
This article was translated by Naver AI translator.
